You may have seen on social media or articles written, you may have even gone to therapy and been asked about your upbringing.  There has always been a sort of understanding that if you had difficult things in your childhood it affects us, but it all feels a bit like the old Freudian type image of therapy of laying on a couch while a therapist asks about your childhood…. But what does it actually do to us and why does our childhood have such a lasting importance when we have moved on from that, created our own life as an adult and maybe even distanced ourselves from anything that we no longer wanted in our lives, surely that is moving on…. Well no it has far deeper roots than we actually think.